Out of the deep love we have for our children flows a desire for them to experience good things. We want what is best for our kids.
But sometimes this good desire leads us down the path of poor financial decision-making. We spend money that we don’t have on our children and find ourselves sinking in an ocean of debt.
We find ourselves asking, “How did we get here? How did we become a living proof that the personal debt statistics we hear are actually true?”
How do parents get there? Consider these 3 common causes:
1. Thinking that your kids will not succeed in life if they don’t have it all. | Tying Your Kids Success To Things
Extracurricular activities have entered a whole new realm. Travel leagues, academic and athletic camps, and private tutoring and athletic training have become commonplace. You want your child to succeed in life. And you are afraid that if you do not provide your child with these opportunities, they will fall behind. So you try to provide it all.
Unfortunately, there is a cost to all these activities and experiences. Not only do they leave little margin in you and your child’s schedule, they eat up the margin in your budget. Are extracurriculars good? Absolutely. But are they worth going into debt? Absolutely not.
2. Wanting to give them what you did not have growing up.
You can probably remember a time when, as a child, you did not get something you wanted. Maybe it was a new bike. Maybe, as a teenager, it was a certain car. You or your parents could not afford it. And you remember how you felt.
Now that you are a parent, you want to ensure that your child doesn’t experience those same feelings. You don’t want them to feel lacking. So when they ask, they get. Even if the purchase requires the swipe of a credit card.
3. Not considering how lacking helped you as a kid. | There Are Benefits To Going Without
You remember what it feet like a child who wanted something but could not get it. But do you also remember what resulted from not being able to get that item? You may have resorted to more creative play. If you were a teenager, you may have resorted to getting a job. These moments in your childhood assisted you in your growth as a individual.
Now consider who you may be now if everything you wanted, you received. For most of us, it’s a scary thought. Lacking was not necessarily bad for you. In fact, lacking may have resulted in more good than bad for you. And it is the same for your child. It is okay for your child not to have everything they want. It may be best. And it is okay to say “no” when a purchase hurts the budget.
Your financial health matters to your children. This is especially true in the future, when your children turn into adults. Frequently, the consequence of poor financial decision-making of parents ends up falling on the shoulders of their adult children. Worry about your financial health now so that your children do not have to worry about your financial health in the future.
Love your children well. Teach them to love God, not stuff. Teach them to give, not get. Teach them that financial resources are meant to advance God’s Kingdom, not their own.
This article was originally published by Art Rainer on his website. Art Rainer is a Vice President at Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary. He holds a Doctor of Business Administration from Nova Southeastern University and an MBA from the University of Kentucky. He writes widely about issues related to finance, wealth, and generosity. If you’d like to read the full article from him, you can click here!