Whether you’re newly married or have been together a long time, at some point there’s a worry that’s probably crossed your mind: divorce. Even if you don’t have any urge to get divorced yourself, it’s hard to ignore the statistics flying around, the constant reminders that not all marriages make it. But just because divorce is common doesn’t mean it has to happen to you. One of the best things that you can do is look back and learn from relationships that have gone wrong, so you can stop yourself from making the same mistakes. And nobody knows divorce better than divorce lawyers.
Divorce lawyers have seen it all—from bubbling newlyweds to bitter splits—and they have a unique insight into what makes marriages fail and what makes them succeed, and they can spot toxic relationship behavior from a mile away. So here are eight ways to protect and strengthen your marriage, straight from the horse’s mouth.
If you ever have doubted the importance of communication, the divorce lawyers we spoke to were unanimous about its importance. Communication has to be more than just talking—it needs to be about actively listening.
2. Prioritize Quality Time
It’s easy to get complacent in relationships, but it’s so important that you make the time to really connect. You cannot underestimate the value of quality, distraction-free communication! Set time aside where you’re really connecting.
3. Take Responsibility
A lot of relationships fall apart because one person sees themselves as the “good” partner, the one who never messes up or does anything wrong while blaming everything on the other person—but everyone makes mistakes. Acknowledging your piece helps to build trust and respect. Just by owning up to your mistakes, you’ll keep the relationship on a solid foundation.
4. Be Realistic
Sometimes, marriages go wrong because we have unrealistic expectations from the start. If you’re honest about the person you’re with and set realistic expectations about your marriage, you’ll be in a much stronger position.
For a relationship to work—and for a marriage to survive—you have to be willing to meet in the middle.
6. Know That Things Change
People change and not at the same pace or in the way you dreamed when you said ‘yes.’ In fact, there are many people that will be married many times—but to the same person if they can courageously and loyally commit to acknowledging the change and working through it at whatever pace works in their marriage.
7. Stay Playful
One thing that can create distance in a relationship is taking each other for granted; we stop romancing and flirting with each other. Not only should you keep your relationship full of romantic sparks, but you also should stay silly with each other.
8. Be Honest
Finally, make a commitment to be honest with each other. Honesty is fundamental to a relationship. Without it, there is no trust. And without trust, the relationship falls apart. Honesty isn’t just about not lying, it’s also about being candid and open about how you’re feeling—rather than withholding information and letting resentments brew. Be as open as you can, as much as you can.
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